Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Update!!

We paid for a letter and photos to be sent to Hope last month through the very kind Ann at Red Threads. But then I started worrying (see previous post below) that Hope didn't know she would be adopted, so we sent another package and a letter and also asked 10 questions. Today we got the best gift!! We heard back from Angela at Ladybugs N Love (also a recommended service for those who might need it!).

I will post some of the Q and A here. From what I can tell, they probably called the orphanage who then asked the foster family. Total answer to prayer on number 1 and 2!!!

1. Does Song Yi know that she will be adopted?
Song Yi knows she is going to be adopted by a foreign family.

2. What does she think about being adopted?
Song Yi really what to have her own dad and mom to love her. She is very much willing to be adopted by a foreign family.

3. Did Song Yi receive our pictures and letter we sent?
Song Yi has received your pictures and letter. She can recognize family member now. she always smiles when she is looking at your pictures.

Also, we got some new photos and some other info, so that helps ease the pain of more paperwork quite a bit!




We also got a size update, which seems more accurate. She will be a LITTLE sister after all. Her height is 40.5" inches and weight 33 lbs, so Lilla has a good 7 inches and 10 pounds on her.

Thursday, June 4, 2009

more paperwork :-(

Let me just start with this:

"But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed....Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal." From 2 Corinthians 4

I have to admit I feel a little hard pressed on every side today. But I am SO thankful that I do believe in the unseen eternal glory!

Basically, I can't say everything here that I want to, but I just found out that we need a homestudy addendum because we are approved to adopt a child age 1-4 years. Well, it used to be okay as long as the child was 4 at referral (which Hope was). But apparently now, since she is over 48 months and might be 5 by the time we actually adopt her (her birthday is August 17), we need to send $340, yet another form and new papers from our social worker. Soon.

We also submitted some papers to immigration a week or two ago and may not have sent all the necessary documentation with it, for reasons I won't go into here. But all we can do is wait and see if our officer at CIS (Citizenship and Immigration for those who don't speak IA, which stands for international adoption...) contacts us for more info.

All I want is to get to China and get my girl!!

We sent a letter and care package via a service and hopefully Hope and her foster parents will get it soon. We had sent another letter and photo album back in April but I wanted to send another in case the first one didn't make it. We also paid this service to make a phone call to the orphanage (even though she is not there, who knows how that works) to ask 10 questions. The thing I most want to know is whether or not she understands that she will be adopted. That is very important to me that she is being prepared for the day when she leaves her foster family and soon after her country, language, food...and all that she has ever known will be different. Can you please pray that someone is talking to her about these things?




We were also able to send a few pictures, so I sent this one so she could see her bed and quilt (still in progress). It's a trundle bed next to Lilla's bed. I also put her name on the wall. And I decided to send a picture that included my mom since she is HOPEfully going to be able to come with us! Please pray for that too if you think of it! I will take with us pictures of our larger family to talk to her about when we are in China. She needs to know about Grampy and Grammy and all the cousins aunts and uncles too who are waiting!

We are on day 14 of waiting for TA (travel approval) which can take 6-12 weeks. Then usually 2-3 weeks until actual travel. End of July travel is still possible!

Monday, June 1, 2009

If you like to email your representatives...

There is a United States immigration requirement now for American parents to have their newly adopted children brought completely up to date with all vaccinations before entering the U.S. using vaccines from China that may or may not be effective or even needed. If you are a future adoptive parent, grandparent or friend of someone adopting from a Hague country (that's you!!) would you consider sending this to your representatives? Adapt as needed/desired. This was written by someone on one of my many adoption chat groups. I emailed and actually got a phone call from Saxby Chambliss' assistant!

Senate:
http://www.senate.gov/general/contact_information/senators_cfm.cfm

House of Representives:
https://writerep.house.gov/writerep/welcome.shtml


Dear ________________________,

I am writing this letter to ask your office to both quickly and diligently work toward correcting a U.S. Congressional oversight in the Hague Convention that affects internationally adopted children. This oversight requires immigrant children adopted from Hague Convention Countries be up to date on all Center for Disease Control (CDC) recommended vaccines prior to entering the United States. Most other countries besides the U.S. are NOT requiring this.

When the Hague Convention was passed, new regulations were issued in the Federal Register on October 30, 2007 at 72 FR 61301. The amendments revised the Department of State regulations to provide for intercountry adoptions that will occur pursuant to the Hague Convention. This provided a new definition of "child" under the Immigration and Nationality Act, amending 101(b)(1)(F) and adding 101(b)(1)(G). Public Law 105-73 provided the exception for newly adopted children from the vaccination requirement by allowing for a written affidavit from the child's soon-to-be physician in lieu of receiving vaccinations abroad. While revising the law for the Hague's implementation, in an apparent oversight, Congress forgot to extend this part of the process. As stated above, this oversight requires these newly adopted children become up to date with all of the CDC's recommended vaccines before they will be granted entry into the US.

It is important to note most of these children come from orphanages in developing countries. Various countries may have given the orphans anywhere from several to no vaccines. Often they have received vaccines relevant to diseases in their country and not required by the CDC. Some may have no medical record or an outdated record of the vaccines they received at the orphanage. Without Public Law 105-73 in place, the newly adopted children would be required to receive the vaccinations again.

As you can imagine, adoption is a very complicated process both emotionally and physically. Taking this into consideration, these vulnerable children may be required to receive a large number of vaccines all in one day, just days after being adopted and just days before they board the lengthy international flight home to the U.S. There are reports of children receiving 6-7 injections at their medical exam in Guangzhou, China in order to comply with this requirement. In my opinion, this is both cruel and unethical.

These children may be medically fragile at the time these vaccinations are required. As the law stands, there is no available exemption for anyone, including the medically fragile. If the family wants to return to the United States with their child, the injections are mandatory without exception.

It is important to note, as the law stands today, these vulnerable children are now the only class of U.S. immigrants that are given no possible exemption from their overseas visa immunization requirements. All other U.S. immigrants are allowed the possibility of exemption due to medical necessity or religious or moral grounds. Can it really be this is a result of the Hague Convention which was intended to actually provide MORE protections for these children?

The best way to handle vaccinations, and the way it was done pre-Hague, was once at home the child's Pediatrician orders a blood test to discover the child's titer antibody levels. With test results in hand, the Pediatrician recommends only those vaccines that are shown to be missing, on a safe time schedule.

We ask that your office quickly seek to extend the previous exemption that allowed adopted children to postpone their immigrant visa vaccination requirements until they are safely at home. Such an exemption would be similar to 101(b)(1)(G) Public Law 105-73 which provided the exception for newly adopted children to the vaccination requirement by allowing for a written affidavit in lieu of receiving vaccinations abroad before receiving an immigrant visa.

Thank you for your consideration in this matter. I look forward to your prompt and timely response. The well being of some of America's newest and most vulnerable citizens depends on it.

......................

NOTE from Katy: I am fine with vaccinations, but would prefer not to have my new child get 7 in one day that they may have already had, right after being adopted, paid for out of pocket rather than through insurance, not under our pediatrician's supervision, a few days before we take a 20 hour plane ride. We did not have to do this for Lilla; it is new because of the Hague laws, which were supposedly created to protect children. Families from Sweden, the Netherlands and other countries do not have to do this. They wait until they are home.

If you're still reading, thanks!!

Saturday, May 23, 2009

We really did get our LOA!

I still can't believe it, but here on hour 3 of paperwork, it does seem true now! Plus, we got the actual approval document via FedEx yesterday so I have proof!! HOPEfully this means we will be in China late July, early August. Please pray for the swine flu woes to GO AWAY and for this next set of paperwork to fly through US immigration and the path to the Chinese consulate! I have to re-post my pictures so Hope is at the top:




Thursday, May 21, 2009

Drumroll please.....

We got our LOA!!!!!
This is day 70 for us and no one expected it!!
Guangdong province where Hope is still is not making appointments for people to complete adoptions, but this is great so we can get all the other paperwork done and reveiwed and hopefully by then the swine flu will be gone and we can go get our girl!!!!
And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.
Romans 5:2-5
Here's a little quilt preview (really bad photo but I am too lazy to go back upstairs!)
There is the best quilt shop off of N. Druid Hills.
It's called Intown Quilters. If you don't sew, it will make you want to start! Their bag is even cute--see photo! The red fabric is for the border, the blue polka dot is for the back.

Saturday, May 16, 2009

Serenity NOW!!

God, give us grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
Courage to change the things
which should be changed,
and the Wisdom to distinguish
the one from the other.

Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that You will make all things right,
If I surrender to Your will,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.

Amen.

Original Serenity Prayer
by Reinhold Niebuhr (1892-1971)

I found this online today and it really made sense. Now, how do I do it?? I feel like Jerry Seinfeld's dad. (edit: Oops, it was George's dad Frank!)

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Swine flu

Well, it appears that the swine flu IS affecting things in China. No one has gotten this approval we are waiting for (LOA) in a few weeks, and China has not sent any referrals from the regular program either. AND we have found out that Hope's province, Guangdong, is not allowing people to make appointments at the civil affairs office. That's where parents sign everything to finalize the adoption. I heard of parents whose plane was quarantined and they were not able to meet their child on time, so I guess it is better not to go yet than to go and have that happen. Let's please pray for this to blow over as fast there as it did here.

I will work on the quilt today!

We have been taking a mental health break from school but the kids want to do something today, so I will get on that too.

This stinks!!! But I know God is not oblivious to all that is happening, and that I CAN trust his timing. (But I wish it were faster...)

We wait in hope for the LORD;
he is our help and our shield.

In him our hearts rejoice,
for we trust in his holy name.

May your unfailing love rest upon us, O LORD,
even as we put our hope in you.

Psalm 33:20-22

Thursday, May 7, 2009

crickets

Ugh, China is silent this week! I just want SOMEONE to get approval!!
Check out the new blog I added to my list to read:
http://fieldtripmom.blogspot.com/
All Atlanta field trips!!

Monday, May 4, 2009

quilt progress



This is the part where you squint and get the main idea...I have everything stuck up on a flannel sheet. I decided to do the heart again because I already know how and I know the measurements! And I don't want anyone telling me I loved them less because I didn't make them a heart! There is a piece of fabric in here left over from Lilla's quilt but maybe I got it too late or misplaced it...it is at the very center top of the heart--white with tiny pastel pawprints. Anyone remember giving me this one about 5 years ago? lol

Update**I am glad I did this because I just thought of a few fabrics I got but I don't see them, and lo and behold they are in my basket still. So if you don't see your fabric, let me know :-) I will update the photo when I fix it. I will check check check to be sure I have all the fabrics before I start sewing! This is what happens when a homeschooling mom of 3 soon to be 4 embarks on a project that requires attention to detail.

Today "people" were expecting big news from China because last week hardly anyone got approvals, but so far hardly a peep! By people I mean the hundreds of people on my various chat groups I have never met! No one knows if they will hold approvals until more is known about the flu. Let's hope not.

Friday, May 1, 2009

Amazing story and some links

Okay, the adoption blog below was the amazing story until I got my mom's update today. She is doing great--feeling well and her scan looked good!!
Her journal is HERE.

A family has found that their daughter they just adopted actually has a birth sibling available for adoption and they are trying to bring him home. I have NEVER heard of this before! Read here.

Good link HERE on the Do's and Don'ts of attachment for family and friends.

A really good website about living with one eye here.

Amazing group of kids at Emory University (and other schools) who run China Care They also organzie a Chinese playgroup called Dumplings that Lilla loves!

Please pray that the swine flu doesn't make a mess of Chine travel!! God is in control...

Monday, April 27, 2009

nothing going on...



Well, today is Day 46 of waiting for LOA.
Remember, we could in hear something in 50-150 days. What a window!
I feel very much in limbo, not wanting to plan, having a lot to do, not wanting to do things too early but not wanting to wait too late. Pretty much I just look at the messes and think about things to do and then forget why I was in that room and walk back out.

Maybe I will just post a "hope" verse.

Yet this I call to mind
and therefore I have hope:
Because of the Lord's great love
we are not consumed,
for his compassions never fail.

Lamentations 6:21-22

46 by Leo Reynolds on Flickr

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Fabric??

Hi friends--
Never fear. If you think you are too late to send fabric, you aren't! I have gotten a lot but could still use more. So if you were thinking about it but felt guilty that you were too late (wow, don't I know THAT feeling?!) don't worry, be happy. But please do hurry :-).


Happy Spring!

Saturday, April 11, 2009

Day 30 and a poem

We are on day:
of "waiting for approval" and recently some families have gotten approval in 32 days, but it seems like 90 days is about the average.

I came across this poem today and I am not usually one for sappy adoption poetry, but this one really got me!!

The Waiting Child

I saw you meet your child today
You kissed your baby joyfully
And as you walked away with her
I played pretend you'd chosen me.

I'm happy for the baby, yet
Inside I'm aching miserably
I want to plead as you go by,
"Does no-one want a child of three?"

I saw you meet your child today
In love with her before you met
And as I watched you take her out
I knew it wasn't my turn yet.

I recognize you from last year!
I knew I'd seen your face before!
But you came for a second babe.
Does no-one want a child of four?

I saw you meet your child today
But this time there was something new
A nurse came in and took MY hand
And then she gave my hand to you.

Can this be true? I'm almost six!
And there are infants here, you see?
But then you kissed me and I knew
The child you picked this time was me.

Copyright 1997 by Debbie Bodie

(number 30 picture taken by Lincolnian)

Sunday, March 29, 2009

When are you going?

That is the most asked question, so I will answer:
Sometime between July and October 2009!
I did some obsessive counting after some obsessive statistic analyzing, all very scientific.
The next thing we wait for is our LOA, which is Approval from China. That will be 50-150 days after LID. 50 days would be the shortest someone has ever ever waited that I recall seeing and 145 days is the longest I have ever seen someone wait, and I have only seen one person wait that long. So, if you obessively count (not that I would do that), we are at day of "waiting for LOA" as we like to call it.

After we get our LOA, we then wait for TA, which stands for Travel Approval, meaning a date has been set at the US consulate in China and we know when we will travel. That takes a few weeks to a few months. Then a few weeks later, we will TRAVEL, which is the part we all want to get to!!

So you can see why the answer to "When are you going?" is often, I don't know. Which is usually a cop out but in this case, the absolute truth. Ask me when I WISH we were going. That one is easy!! YESTERDAY!!

PS--don't forget to send me quilt fabric (look 3 posts below for details) Deadline extended to April 13, so you have time!
PSS--my 17 is from Leo Reynolds on Flikr just in case that matters

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

New pictures already!!






Just got these from our agency today! I am thinking she is more the outdoorsy type and was NOT happy about the Glamour Shots she had to do before. I am so happy to see smiles! And we also got updated measurements. Can you believe she is almost as tall as Lilla but a few pounds lighter. They are only 11 days apart in age (Lilla's birthday is 8/6/04 and Hope/Song's is 8/17/04) and apparently will be the same size too.

Monday, March 16, 2009

Here She Is!!!




We are pleased to present our daughter!

Hope SongYi
Born August 17, 2004
In Guangdong Province, China


We talked about several American names to give her, but this weekend, Mark and I both talked about Hope, a name that has never been on any of our name lists. I just love HOPE--the girl and the word! The Bible is so full of hope, in fact, I’d say it is the thesis of the whole thing.

More details later about how all of this came to be!

She is either missing her right eye or it is very small, according to her papers. We hope (there it is again) she will be able to get a prosthetic eye one day. More on that later too.

We would love to travel in August, but it could be as late as October.

Please pray for us to just trust God. He started this and he is able to finish it and give us everything we need in the meantime! Pray for Hope to be well taken care of until we meet her.

We wait in hope for the Lord;
He is our help and our shield.
In him our hearts rejoice,
For we trust in his holy name.
May your unfailing love
rest upon us, O Lord,
even as we put our hope in you.
Psalm 33:20-22

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

100 Good Wishes Quilt


The top of Lilla's quilt before I put the whole thing together.

Praise God we sent our paperwork (dossier) off to our agency this week and they will be sending it to China Friday!

While we are waiting for our daughter, we are working on a project that we REALLY need your help with. We are creating something called a "100 Good Wishes Quilt." I made one for Lilla. Can’t stop now!

To welcome and celebrate a new life, there is a tradition in the northern part of China to make a Bai Jia Bei, or "100 Good Wishes Quilt." It is a custom to invite 100 people to contribute a patch of cloth. The 100 patches are sewn together into a quilt that contains the good wishes from all the families and friends who contributed a piece of fabric. Really, it has just become more of a tradition in the adoption community as something to do as you wait so you don’t lose your ever-loving mind.

We love the idea of welcoming our daughter into our home with a quilt that represents the good wishes you are all sending her way.

Here is what to do if you would like to participate:

1. Choose any 100% cotton fabric that you like. It can be from old clothing or from a fabric store, or left over from a project. It just needs to be a design and color that you like. Please, not the stretchy knit kind. I found that is harder to work with for an inexperienced quilter like myself.

2. Cut two (2) 8" squares (or anything at least that large, can even be one big piece) from the fabric. This way, I can have room for error and have some extra left over to make a smaller matching doll blanket. Or, you can just get ¼ yard of fabric at the fabric store and I am glad to cut it.

3. Include your "good wish note" on a piece of paper or a notecard. I will attach a small scrap of your fabric to the note and we will place all your wishes in a scrapbook that we will give to the her. Lilla loves looking at her quilt book and remembers who gave which fabric. It is really very special.

*If there are several members in your family, please feel free to send more than 1 set of scraps if you want.

Ideas for good wishes note:

You can include a poem, Bible verse, short note...Some wishes that come to mind are faith in God, good health, perseverance, compassion, and sense of humor. Do whatever you feel. No pressure! Or just sign your name to a piece of paper if you prefer.

It would be great to get the fabric and notes before April 13 so the quilt can be completed before we go to China.

Thank you!

Katy and Mark

(if you don’t have my address, email me and I will give it to you if I don’t think you are a stalker…)

Monday, February 23, 2009

Update on Mom!

Hopefully you guys get the journal updates on my mom. If not, the great news is her scan looked good!! Everything looks the same, and if you know anything about metstatic cancer, you know that is GOOD. If you think you've never seen a miracle, well, I am thinking you haven't met my mom!! So woo-hoo! Thank you God.
Click here if you want to see her CaringBridge page.
She couldn't get chemo last week or today because of her low white count, but let's pray she can tomorrow. They are going to try again.

...in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us...Romans 8 somewhere

Sunday, February 15, 2009

a few photos




The volcano cake and Landon with his new guinea pig "Stripes," who is quite cute for a rodent.

Thursday, February 12, 2009

Where have I been? Landon is 8!

I'm sure the 2 people reading this have wondered. :-)
Well, homeschooling has cut my computer time a lot. Which is very likely a good thing. I find I can only pop on and off to check email or my yahoo groups really quick. No time for actual thoughtful output.
And since we got home from Disney, I have been sick and just as I was getting better I hurt my neck by doing absolutely nothing. Yesterday morning I was drying my face and heard a gristly sound come from the back of my neck and pain followed. BUT it feels better today, not worse, so I can rule out most really bad things I think. Yea for getting older!

But more importantly, Landon is 8 today! Just 8 years ago, we got to Northside and about 3 hours later had a baby! Jake was 20 months old at the time.

Here he is at 6 days old:


And here we are when Landon was 4 months old and right before Jake turned 2.


He got a bike and a guinea pig. Pictures later.

As for adoption news, there is nothing new. A lot has been going on behind the scenes, but it is so hard to know what to write about in a public place! Suffice it to say, we are still waiting. So our child is still out there and it would be great if anyone wants to pray for God to bring us together with her really soon! Lilla says very often, I need company! I want my sister NOW! We will definitely update when there's something to tell.

More Disney pics:







And I'll just add in a passage I love. It throws so much in there that I am thinking of--memories of childbirth, comparing it to all the painful groaning expectation we have here on earth sometimes, the hope of heaven, us being adopted by God...

We know that the whole creation has been groaning as in the pains of childbirth right up to the present time. Not only so, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for our adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies. For in this hope we were saved. But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what he already has? But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently. Romans 8:22-25

Hey I'll just give a shout out for Romans 8. If you read nothing else in the Bible, it's worth a look.